Identifying Emotional Wounds (Triggers)
Below is a clip from greatbiblestudy.com from Robert L.
The first thing we need to do is identify the problem, and realize the need for inner healing. Below is a list of common symptoms to look for in someone who has an emotional wounds/triggers:
When a person has been wounded, it becomes easy to blame God for their troubles and hardships. This is the last thing you want to do when seeking to be healed, because it virtually puts a wall in your mind that can block the healing power of the Holy Spirit to operate. Although he desires to heal your wound, he will not override your free will, and if you hold hate in your heart against him, it blocks his efforts to heal your wounds.
A person who is a cutter usually has an altar inside the person who is holding much pain, and needs to release the pain or it honestly feels that it deserves the pain (self-hate / religious bondage).
When you are experiencing an inner wound, you may become easily frustrated with everyday chores and responsibilities.
As a result of inner turmoil, it is easy to desire to escape or suppress reality. This can be in the form of overreacting, drinking, smoking, porn, spending money, etc. When a person indulges in escapism, it can open the door to spirits of addiction which makes the addictions virtually impossible to break.
It is hard to clearly see and realize the love of others and God in your life. You may be surrounded by people who love you, but it can be difficult to receive that love. There seems to be a wall up that blocks the flow of love into your life.
It becomes very difficult, if not impossible to love and therefore forgive others. It can also be hard to forgive and love yourself. It can be even hard to forgive in love, even though HE has done nothing wrong against you.
Bound up emotions can cause a person to feel hostile towards God, other people in their life, or even themselves. This is usually rooted in a form of bitterness against God for not preventing something from happening, bitterness against somebody who has wronged or harmed us emotionally, or bitterness against ourselves for failures that we have fallen into.
There’s often a sense of inner rawness and hurt that doesn’t seem to go away.
Somebody who has been wounded may set high expectations for those around them. They feel that others ought to hold up to unrealistic standards, and are very intolerable to any mistakes made. They find it hard to forbear or put up with one another as the Bible commands of us. See Colossians 3:13.
Inner pain has a way of consuming a person’s mind, and eventually this can take on a careless approach to life. It is hard to feel good about yourself when you have inner wounds, and if you don’t feel good about yourself, it will begin to show in your lifestyle and choices.
It’s easy to become irritable with others, even if they aren’t doing anything wrong!
When there’s an inner wound that has festered, it becomes easy to lash out or even have sudden outbursts of anger, hate, resentment, etc. You may find it easy to lash out at the people who love you, and have done no harm to you.
Feelings of anger, hate, resentment, etc. seem to “rise up” within you at the slightest offense from others.
I believe that obsessive-compulsive disorder, OCD, often involves emotional wounds that were never fully healed. This is especially true with people who have bondages to self hate, self resentment and unforgiveness.
When we suffer from an emotional wound, it can create a sense of void in our life’s meaning, which then obsessively drives us to find meaning and purpose and happiness. This could be in the form of college degrees, careers, or financial success. Instead of appreciating the person who God has made you, you find yourself chasing what you think will bring true happiness and purpose to your life.
If there are events in your past which caused you to become very sensitive or angry, or even cause you to lash out, then it’s likely revealing a deep emotional wound tied in with that event or memory.
A person who has an emotional wound may be performance driven. Perhaps they feel like no matter what they did, they could never please a parent or authority figure, and later on in life, that rejection wound causes a person to be a performer to the point where they are never satisfied in being burned out by their efforts.
Because of built-up hate and anger as a result of unforgiveness, somebody who has a festering wound will find it easy to retaliate or snap back at those who offend them or step on their toes.
Many times when a person is hurt from past abuse, they will begin to think that perhaps what happened to them, was deserved because of something they did or the way that they were. This is not true. Abuse is never acceptable, even if a child was being out of order. Parental love disciplines and corrects, but never abuses.